Make Friends

Find people that make you laugh; Who are easy to talk to and who make the silence comfortable. These are the people who you choose to spend your time with. These are the people you will call friends.

Personally i have never been the kind of person to phone my friends up to talk about my day, my feelings and emotions. I tend to express myself better in other ways such as writing and that is ok. Not everyone will "get you" but that just makes it that much more special when you find those few that do.

The people that get your sense of humor and that you can totally feel free to be yourself when you around them; sometimes if you are lucky enough you will find at least one person that is "your person ".

I don't think of my self as the best example of a good friend. I would much more prefer that my children get their friendship skills from their dad. He is probably the most genuine person I know. He has made friends in his childhood that are still considered good friends today. He makes friends really easy too; making a friend while you on your way taking out the trash, is a great skill to have.

I on the other hand have lost touch with a lot of  people who I hold close to my heart. Sometimes life just sails in different directions and ways part. I am shy, even though I try to hide it. I am socially awkward and try my best to make conversation with others. Most of the times what is in my head and what comes out of my mouth differ so much, that I even surprise my self. And in a society that sometimes feels like my own after 20 years and other times feels so far from what I know; I feel lost. So I surround myself with the people who see my worth without me having to explain it, and who know that I am willing to offer whatever I can freely without feeling forced. Unfortunately these people are few but cherished.

The value of a good friend is priceless and I hope I can pass this notion on to my little ones so that their life may always be filled with good companionship and laughter. I guess I can only teach them to be genuine, true to who they are and kind to others; friendship should follow.

If you going to be a friend, be a good one.

Natasha Elena G.

Believe it

Many Sundays have come and gone without me sitting in a church seat.

Does this make me a sinner?  

I have never been one to think that if i am not in church God can't hear me. Besides, my belief does not lay in the 4 walls of the church but in the love that God has for all people no matter where we are.

I can not call myself a religious person as i do not follow all the churches rules and regulations. Nevertheless i do have faith and i want to believe that my faith is what brings me closer to God. Although i have been baptized and my wedding did take place in church, i can not say that i am a frequent visitor to the alter.
I do visit church now and then. Sometimes just to look at the the beauty of the "house of God" sometimes to send out a prayer, sometimes to ask for help and not often as i should to show gratitude.

I remember my Grandmother to be a very religious woman. She wore praying beads around her neck and everyday she would take the time to pray.
She would give what she could to the church and believed that everyone on earth has come with a "divine" purpose. My grandmother probably was the one to pass the value of faith on to my dad. My father has always been a good provider for his family. He has been working all his life to make sure his family is taken care of and that every need that his wife and children have are met. He gets up every morning for the past 65 years using his hands, physical labor and energy in to providing for his family. This he does out of Love.

Before he begins his day and as he starts the car to drive to his destination, he prays.

I'm sure my father has been afraid; but he never shows it.

I'm sure he has felt like crying; but he almost never does.

I'm sure he feels weak; but everyone sees his strength.

And where does he find this strength? In the faith he has in God.

I want my children to believe. To know that there is more. To never doubt that they will be provided for. To never doubt the strength God provides. I want them to be grateful and humble. But most of all i want them to know Love and to share love.

If this is something i am able to teach my growing family then i have succeeded as a parent.

xx

Natasha Elena G. 

My mother once told me my father once said

I don't usually write posts on my iPhone, but seeing as we are up and about this long week-end; here it goes...

When I was very little my mother told me, that before I was born God showed me all the families in the world and that out of all of them; I chose this one.

Even though I knew that this was not quite the way things worked; I understood what my mother ment by saying this to me. This was her way of explaining to me that no matter where I go In this world, that I would not find people who loved me more than my family. 

My father on the other hand would say 'You can choose your friends but your family is your family and you have to learn how to live and love one-another like it or not.' And this was his way of telling me that no matter how frustrating family members can be, how angry we may get with one-another or how much we wished we had a choice in the matter; that family was here to stay and that they were not going anywhere. 

Today I am a parent, and there is nothing more valuable for me to offer my children than the value of family and the knowledge that no matter what we will always be by their side. Like it or not!

Don't mistake us (my crazy family and I)  for one of those picture perfect families. We have been seen and heard in public arguing about the silliest things... We have cried out of frustration with one-another many many times. We have even said the harshest of words to one-another during those heated moments. But never ever have we let any of this break us apart. 

So no, we can't always be hunky dory (happy go lucky) but we are a family and we are all together to celebrate the good and hold hands when things get tough. 

Thing is, if you asked me about this years ago when I was a child. I may of not had the words to explain how this whole family thing works. But it didn't matter because the feeling was there! And I knew that no matter what, I had a backup system that was called "my family" and that was enough to hold me up wherever I was, or went or will go. 

Family has been the greatest gift that has been given to me. A gift that I will pass on and that never dies or goes away. We carry family with us where ever we are, even if their time with us here is passed. They are part of you and you of them; 

Xoxo

Natasha Elena G.

There will be happy days and we will all smile - There will be sad days and we will wipe eachothers tears.

So its been said that once you get married and have kids your life is basically over.

Bucket list's of things to do before you have kids have been written and rewritten as the times change.

Movies and books end with a wedding or the classic frame where the wife holds her baby bump; but what comes after that?... 

Do we just lock ourselves behind the walls of our home and behind the desk at the office? 

Do we leave everything that once seemed exiting for a mindset idea of what the lifestyle of a wife, a husband or a parent should be?

So here is the truth.

You come home from the clinic after giving birth to your first baby and the same sun that shined yesterday is still shining today. The only difference is in the way you look at the reflected light.

Your Baby has you in the world and no one else! It is up to you to welcome him and introduce him to the world and the way you look at it. From this introduction he/she will gain their own point of view and create opinions of their own.

So I have decided today to change the set idea of what life is like after marriage and having a child. And who am I? I am just a new mother who has made a conscious decision to show the best of what this world has to offer to my baby boy and share all these experiences with my husband. To gather memories as we go, to laugh when we are given the chance and wipe each-others tears when needed.

We are not rich and do not have the financial capability to drop everything and travel the world. We both work and bring in a decent amount of money to tackle our needs and luckily even some of our wants. But we are the ones that make the decisions; we decide what our priorities are and how we should spend what is left in our pockets.

So I will let today be the day that i live the life i have chosen to live. Because today i am here and i am lucky to have a wonderful husband and a precious baby boy and the best dog in the world.

There will be happy days and we will all smile, laugh and celebrate.

There will be sad days and on those days i will be there to wipe your tears.

Natasha Elena G.